Going closer to my 40s I can admit that women are precious, or if you prefer vital, for a community.
If you are a man, probably women told you the hardest “no” to accept; they made you feel vulnerable even if you are a colossus, or they made you feel a king even if you own nothing.
If you are a woman, probably it has been another woman to teach you how to dress and makeup to enhance the best parts of you; it was been a woman the first person you talked with about love [or about sex]; and may be another lady has been also your first fight.
Women are something, take it or leave it. If you are eterosexual, if you are omosexual, lesbian or more, women are there, as a lighthouse in a dark night, for some reason.
I am eterosexual, and I love women. However I can easily say that the right woman is an angel, but the wrong one is the Evil on earth. Pure human dark side.
Women are hard to manage, especially in smaller environments like an office or a prison [psss, or a wedding, remember this]… yes I know, these places are almost the same thing isn’t it?! About ladies in the jail, Diego Gambetta, a sociologist, says women make rougher inmates because they take longer to establish a hierarchy. Fighting, he says, “is an information-seeking device”, and although the toughest men sport large muscles and scars, the toughest women are harder to spot […] (source).
I believe all men should be feminists… all women should live with same rights and duties men have… this would also improve men situation in a lot of countries.
Nowadays I see a lot of women that wanna “play hard like men”, but when it comes the moment to get hurt they step back summoning chivalry, headaches, stress or other medieval tales, as shelter… Scientifically dosed to dodge the pain.
Of the 400,000 people in the United States receiving post-divorce spousal maintenance, just 3 percent were men, according to Census figures. Yet 40 percent of households are headed by female breadwinners — suggesting that hundreds of thousands of men are eligible for alimony, yet don’t receive it [source]. The same article try to explain this situation talking about gender stereotypes, having the man as macho who would never ask to his former wife the alimony to not feel himself “emasculated” … bah, I don’t comment any further as I barely met women chasing men who earned less than them …
Anyway… there are a lot of Countries where women are not respected [or worse], and this should change. There are many other Countries where women often rule, and men suffer [as in Italy, for example]. I cannot make a comparison between brutalities as infibulation [against women] and an unfair divorce jurisprudence [against men], but it would be important to understand that life is not easy for anyone.
Common sense and respect, more than laws, should drive women and men to leave in peace, together or not.
“I would always rather be happy than dignified.” Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre.