International studies show that up to 70% of women have experienced physical and/or sexual violence from an intimate partner in their lifetime [1].

From a Europe area perspective, it’s estimated that about 43% of women in the 28 European Union Member States have experienced some form of psychological violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime [2].

So we are talking about an average of 70% mixing up countries like South Africa or USA, and 43% about European countries like Italy, France or Portugal … really high stats unfortunately …

Violence is never justified of course, however as man I have to say that women should pick more carefully their partners. In other words, women should use different filters evaluating a person to have a relation/social time with.

  My country, Italy, is a very problematic place which is a good example about what is not working properly in social relations nowadays, between boys & girls.

As “standard” Italian man, in Italy young and less young women just negatively judged me because I did not wear the “right clothes”, I did not drive the “right car”, I did not have meals in the “right restaurants”, I did not have the “right tattoos” and much more…

Thanks God, despite all these stupid things, I had an active social and sexual life in my Country. How did it happen? Because I met the right girls, the minority, the ones who just take me for what I am and who possibly pay attention about my behaviour with them, more than about the things I have and the places I typically go to.

“Dear” women, men can change clothes, they can increase or decrease their money, they can try a new restaurant, but their behaviour and morality, their common sense, their respect for others… these last things are far more hard to change and/or to take under control.

So instead of insulting a man who does not have aggressive attitude [making him feel as a fairy dummy] try to pay attention to his personal qualities, because these are the keys for a meaningful relationship, such qualities are the heritage he will be able to transmit to his children.

  We all like wild people, as lovers at least, that’s fine. But let’s try to not pick the ones that may destroy our lives, otherwise we are their partner in crime, literally, so we are equally responsible for what they will do to ourselves…. The more they are strange, the more adrenaline we produce trying to deal with them in dangerous situations as violence and raw verbal fights, right but…  They may punch us, they may shoot us, they may drive us by car into hell drinking too much, and more… There is not limit to such human disgrace.

  This topic is not a secret nor an invention of mine. There are even true best sellers that explain the women’s addiction to problematic and dangerous men [note: it works also on the other side as men who love too much, guaranteed] , due to the facts that strong emotions such pain produce endorphins (and so a drug), as the book: “Women who love too much”.  And it’s not a coincidence to see this book strictly linked to websites that analyze this scenario as a pure mental illness.

There are also less serious reading opportunities which analyze the same situation from a superficial seduction point of view, as Mystery Method.

   So I would take my conclusions saying that women should carefully consider other kinds of men before introducing themselves as victims, as in many [but not all] scenarios of violence against the partner they are 50% co-authors and so, responsible for the events that happen. Women in many cases are just victims of their own bad choices, that have been taken with total awareness of the risks involved.

Please read the 18 U.S. Code § 373 – Solicitation to commit a crime of violence without prejudices and take your own conclusions in relation to what we are talking about.
> “Errare humanum est, perseverare autem diabolicum”. Seneca
> Nick: What’s your new book about?

       Catherine: A detective. He falls for the wrong woman.

                Nick: What happens to him?

                       Catherine: She kills him.  Basic Instinct, 1992.

 

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[1] World Health Organization, Department of Reproductive Health and Research, London School of Hygiene and Tropical Medicine, South African Medical Research Council (2013). Global and regional estimates of violence against women: prevalence and health effects of intimate partner violence and non-partner sexual violence, p.2. For individual country information, see The World’s Women 2015, Trends and Statistics, Chapter 6, Violence against Women, United Nations Department of Economic and Social Affairs, 2015 and UN Women Global Database on Violence against Women.
[2] European Union Agency for Fundamental Rights (2014). Violence against women: an EU-wide survey, p. 71.